Change your attitude, change your life
Your attitude is an indication of where you’ve been, where you are, and where you’re going.
By SJ White
Of all the things I’ve learned concerning self-leadership – building a solid well-rounded attitude is the most significant. Experts in the field of personal growth have for years designated attitude as the most important word in any language. It’s the fuel that propels the engine of life. You got a bad one, you’re not going far. Even if we already have a pretty good attitude, making improvements on something pretty good can make it great. The truth of the matter is, developing a great attitude doesn’t affect the world nearly as much as it affects us. The world is going to move forward no matter what kind of attitude we have. Want to be a magnet to whatever it is you seek? Sharpen your attitude skills.
“There are two facets to the mysterious aura of attitude. One is the attitude we take toward ourselves; if we have the attitude we can’t accomplish something, in most cases we won’t even try; the other, is the attitude we take toward the world; when it comes to the affairs of the world, remember, no matter what business you are in, you are in the people business, and people are not big fans of bad attitudes.”
Learning to appreciate people is the first step in building a great attitude. You want people to like you? Learn to appreciate them. There is nothing in the world people want more than to know they matter, to know they are loved, respected, needed and appreciated for what they do and who they are. Give it to them and watch their eyes light up. I’m not talking about handing out phony praises, I’m talking about sincere, genuine heartfelt appreciation. To do that you have to invest time in getting to know the person. If you are sincere they’ll know it, (you can only fool people so long) and once they know it, they’ll return the favor as well as give their business to the person, or persons, who make them feel special.
To be good at anything we have to practice. Repetition is the mother of invention, the father of action, and the architect of accomplishment. For example: if you are not a patient person, well, who wants to be around you? Nobody! That’s who! Want to get rid of that ugly persona? Start seeing yourself as a patient person by repeatedly placing a vision of a patient you in your mind. Whenever a moment of impatience happens to creep up on you, recall that vision and do your best to emulate it. Do this with every area of attitude you wish to improve, including the attitude you take toward your abilities, and over time, your subconscious mind will take that new vision you have of yourself and turn it into an automatic response.
Successful people come in all shapes and sizes, and in most cases, it’s not their smarts that took them to the top, it was their attitude. Your attitude can be your best friend or your worst enemy. Do yourself a favor, make a friend. Check out the bullet points below:
- Everything operates under the law of cause and effect. Bad attitude, bad results, great attitude, great results. So simple you wonder why so many have a bad attitude.
- Want more friends? Try being one.
- Avoid criticizing, condemning, and complaining at all cost. Any fool can do that – in fact, most fools do.
- Learn to appreciate people for who they are, not who you would like them to be. After careful consideration, if who they are doesn’t agree with you, don’t criticize or waste time trying to change them, move on. Everyone is not for everyone.
- Believe in yourself and your abilities. Both are a divine gift. Don’t let them go unrecognized.
- Keep your listening skills sharp. People love a good listener. And, you can learn something from everybody.
- If you want love in your life? Be lovable.
- Practice the art of a pleasing personality, and you’ll end up with one.