Change your attitude, change your life
Your attitude is a combination of where you’ve been, where you are, and where you’re going.
By SJ White
Of all the things I’ve learned concerning self-leadership – building a solid well-rounded attitude is definitely the most significant. Experts in the field of personal growth have for years designated attitude as the most important word in any language. It’s the fuel that propels the engine of life. You got a bad one, you’re not going far. Let’s face it, the world doesn’t care whether you and I change or not. Developing a great attitude doesn’t affect the world nearly as much as it affects us. Even if you already have a pretty good attitude, let’s not forget that building on something good can make it great. Want to be a magnet to whatever it is you seek? Start by sharpening up your attitude skills.
“There are two facets to the mysterious aura of attitude. One is the attitude we take toward ourselves. If we have the attitude we can’t accomplish something, in most cases we won’t even try. The other is the attitude we take toward the world. When it comes to the affairs of the world, remember, no matter what business you are in, you are in the people business, and people are not big fans of bad attitudes.
Learning to appreciate people is the first step in building a great attitude. You want people to like you? Learn to appreciate them. There is nothing in the world people want more than to know they matter, to know they are loved, respected, needed and appreciated for what they do and who they are. Give it to them and watch their eyes light up. Zig Ziglar often said, “You can get anything you want in life if you help enough people get what they want.” I’m not talking about handing out phony praises, I’m talking about sincere, genuine heartfelt appreciation. In order to do that you have to invest time in getting to know the person. You can only fool people so long. If you are sincere they’ll know it, and once they know it, they’ll return the favor as well as give their business to the person, or persons, who make them feel special.
To be good at anything we must practice, practice, practice. Same goes for developing the kind of attitude people enjoy being around. For example: if you are not a patient person, well, who wants to be around you? Nobody! That’s who! Want to get rid of that ugly persona? Start seeing yourself as a patient person by placing an image of a patient you in your mind. Play that image in the morning, middle of the day, and before you go to bed. Whenever a moment of impatience happens to creep up on you, recall that picture in your mind and do your best to emulate the person you see in that picture.
Learning new behavior patterns is a lot like learning how to drive a car. At first, you’re all over the place, unsure of what your next move is, but you keep practicing, you don’t give up, and before you know it, you are driving like you were born to do it. So it is with developing a winning attitude. Not easy, but it’s a car you can learn to drive.
Criticize, condemn, and complain? What does that type of attitude get us? Nothing! It turns more people off than on. Same principle: catch yourself making a judgment call, bring up that picture in your mind of that new non-judgmental you and become that person. The one everybody loves being around. Let’s face it, if people don’t witness you judging others, they are pretty sure they can count on you not to judge them. Who doesn’t like that? This method works for any area of your attitude you wish to improve. Try it, you’ll be amazed at the results.
Your attitude can be your best friend or your worst enemy. Do yourself a favor, make a friend. Remember, successful people come in all shapes and sizes, and in most cases, it’s not their smarts that took them to the top, it was their attitude. Check out the bullet points below:
- Everything operates under the law of cause and effect. Bad attitude, bad results, great attitude, great results. So simple you wonder why so many have a bad attitude.
- Want more friends? Try being one.
- Avoid criticizing, condemning, and complaining, at all cost. Any fool can do that – in fact, most fools do.
- Learn to appreciate people for who they are, not who you would like them to be. After careful consideration, if who they are doesn’t agree with you, don’t criticize or waste time trying to change them, move on. Everyone is not for everyone.
- Keep your listening skills sharp. People love a good listener. And, believe it or not, you can learn something from everybody.
- No one enjoys being around someone with a bad attitude. Avoid that label at all cost.
- Practice the art of a pleasing personality, and you’ll end up with one.
- People learn from people they like, they follow people they love.
- You want love in your life? Be lovable.